Portland Relationship Institute

7100 SW Hampton Street #128  l Tigard OR 97223 l  503-342-2510

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Are you creating canyons in your relationship?  Or Building Bridges?
We can use stones to build walls or build bridges.  You may need a little coaching to to learn how to build bridges rather than create a gaping divide in your relationship.  Learn how to be the one to take the first stone out of your wall of defense, lay it down and build a bridge.  Read about the steps you can take to build bridges.  And the steps you can retrace to avoid creating canyons.

Creating Canyons

  • Expressing contempt for your partners thoughts actions and feelings
  • Being too busy to listen
  • Letting work, hobbies or other relationships steal your time
  • Disrespect for one another and the relationship
  • Arguing rather than communicating
  • Walling yourself off with projects, TV, or internet use
  • Lack of physical contact
  • Lack of eye contact
  • Criticizing rather than listening
  • Living in a day to day rut that is boring or monotonous
  • Verbal, physical and/or emotional abuse
  • Predictable, routine interactions
  • Few expressions of caring & tenderness
  • Keeping secrets
  • Unexpressed feelings
  • Avoiding conflict
  • Avoiding resolution of conflict
  • Seldom having any quality alone time together
  • Letting unresolved anger and resentment linger
  • Unrealistic expectations and assumptions
  • Deciding not to risk asking for what you want
If you need help building bridges, give us a call to set up an appointment at 503-340-2510 or email us at gethelp@portlandrelationshipinstitute.com

Building Bridges

  • Regular, consistent listening to one another
  • Respect in the form of listening not just to the words but also to the meaning
  • Regular physical contact that both people feel good about
  • Frequent eye contact
  • Having fun together
  • Creating physical and emotional safety at all times
  • Spontaneous surprises occasionally
  • Regular expression of caring & tenderness as defined by your partner
  • Regular expression of feelings
  • Using conflict resolution skills when conflict emerges
  • Creating regular time alone together, without distraction
  • Anger and resentments expressed and resolved
  • Realistic expectations which are regularly communicated
  • Asking for what you want
  • Saying and/or doing what is truthful and honest for you
  • Being honest and straightforward with your partner
  • Acceptance of your partner's personality and characteristics
  • Promoting your partner's growth as an individual
  • Taking responsibility for your relationship
  • Understanding the impact of your family of origin on your relationship
  • Taking the time to listen to what your partner thinks and feels
  • Living in the present and envisioning a positive future together
  • Emphasize solutions and positivity
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