Portland Relationship Institute

7100 SW Hampton Street #128  l Tigard OR 97223 l  503-342-2510

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Frequently Asked Questions Regarding Couples'Therapy
Therapy How long will couples therapy take? 

At the Portland Relationship Institute, specific goals are set at the beginning of therapy, and couples are expected to do homework to establish healthy relationship patterns and practices in their daily lives. Because of this, therapy or counseling is usually time-limited and ends when your relationship goals have been met. Of course there are some more complex situations which require a series of goals and resolutions that take place sequentially over time. All of this can be discussed and clarified during the initial evaluation session with the therapist. Because we have specialized in relationship issues for over twenty years, we have almost certainly dealt with any relationship or couples' issues you may have.

How do you choose an effective Couples' Therapist?  

We have found through experience and research that the most effective couples' therapy combines skill-building with feedback and insight on communication patterns and processes, along with regular homework assignments. Couples' sessions where the therapists merely referee arguments tends to not produce any long-lasting changes in relationship patterns. So when you're choosing a couples' therapist, ask these questions:
  1. How active and directive they are in their sessions.
  2. How many couples' or marriage counseling sessions they do every week. If it's less than 35% of their practice, it may be a specialty
  3. What type of training they have had specifically for couples work and if the training is research based.
We recommend John Gottman's training and methods since they are the gold standard of relationship research.

Do you take health insurance? 

Yes we can take many different insurance plans. To see if your insurance will cover our services, please call us at 503-342-2510 or email us at gethelp@relationshipinstitute.com with your insurance details and we will check your benefits so you know the cost in advance. 

What if I want to do couples counseling but my spouse is unwilling to come?

You'd be surprised how much you can improve your relationship by making simple changes in the way you communicate.  We can show you simple skills that can help you create more respect and peace.  And these simple changes may help pave the way for your partner or spouse to come when they see you are willing. 

Is it too late or too soon for couples counseling?

If we had our way, we'd like to see these skills taught from grade school to high school!  We think that a relationship is  like a garden.  With water, fertilizer, weeding and sunshine it feeds and nourishes.
Without TLC, relationship “weeds” can take over.  The more "weeds" in your garden, the longer it will take to bring your relationship back to health.   However, many people come into counseling just prior to divorce, when their garden is full of weeds with a lot of work to do.  And we will help you at any stage in your relationship.  Our skills are effective though not miraculous.   It took time for your relationship to develop problems and it  and it will take time and effort to re-establish your relationship.   You can trust that if we ascertain there are unsolvable problems we will let you know.  But this rarely happens in our experience.

Do you choose sides in couples counseling?

Many couples worry about this.  We tell our couples that we do takes sides.  We are on the side of the relationship and will help you do what it takes to both create the respect and love that drew you togethre in ther rist place.Marriage counseling is not about sides.  Many couples come into therapy wondering whose side the counselor will choose.  I do not take on the role of a referee, making a call on who is right and wrong.  Frankly, such referring is a waste of time in counseling.  Who is right and wrong in an argument rarely matters much in the grand scheme of a marriage.  What matters is your communication style, understanding of each other, and taking personal responsibility for your own issues.  The ultimate counseling goal is to move toward working on the “side” of the marriage relationship.

We have helped hundreds of couples solve their problems and create healthy, fulfilling, loving relationships. Call 503-342-2510, send an email to gethelp@portlandrelationshipinstitute.com

The Portland Relationship Institute serves the online community, as well as communities in Portland Oregon and Southwest Washington including: Beaverton, Hillsboro, Gaston, Yamhill, Forest Grove, Lake Oswego, Gresham, Troutdale, Corbett, Vancouver, Battle Ground, Ridgefield,  Oregon City, Clackamas, Wilsonville, Milwaukie, Gladstone, Tualatin, King City, Sherwood,  Aloha,  North Plains, Camas,  Washougal, Brush Prarie,

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